If you have been following this blog, you must have noticed that we welcomed a cute bundle of Joy a month back.
In this post, I wanted to talk of how you could prepare your toddler to make the entire episode a happy one.
It is such an awesome news that the family will grow, but it is quiet overwhelming and challenging for your toddler.
Here are some tips that we used that kind of eased or transitioned our toddler well.
1. Let your toddler know the good news right from the beginning. My toddler knew he was going to a brother when I was 2 months pregnant.
2. Take your toddler along to the hospital visits and scan appointments. My boy was present during all scans and he got to watch the little baby on the scan monitors.
3. I let my little boy apply stretch marks cream on my tummy and had him gently stroke the tummy.
4. We spoke positively about the baby and told him when the baby is here he would have company to talk and play.
5. We took advantage of all newborn visits in the friends and family circle. While we were there we told him that is how our new baby would be.
6. We took him while we shopped for our newborn.
7. I told him his birth story of how he was born and how I instantly fell in love with him. I kept reminding him of how new baby would come in from my tummy as well.
8. We spoke about how we would get to stay in hospital for a while when the baby comes in.
9. We shopped few toys to keep him busy during hospital visits and we wrapped a car for him. We told him that baby got him this gift 😉
10. We told him that we would move to my parents place and prepared him that his grandma and grandpa will take care of him.
11. When he first met his brother we asked him to kiss the baby gently.
12. Once we came home with the baby, we got his help in reaching out for diapers, massage lotions and other things.
13. I asked his preferences of the two choices of dress we would dress for the baby. Sometimes the combinations were funny but it gave him a sense of belonging and contributing to the baby 🙂
While this was all done we made sure he got enough attention during the whole pregnancy and after the baby’s arrival.
Afterall that would be the only time your toddler will be your only child 😉
We made sure he does not feel left out and I and my husband tried to him undivided attention.
Honestly with a newborn it was tough but we did our part 🙂
P.S: Below are the things I wish I had done differently.
1. I could have weaned my toddler during my pregnancy. Tandem breastfeeding got difficult while my little one started cluster feeding at 4 weeks.
2. I wish I had let my toddler stay in the hospital on the first day of baby’s arrival. That was our first and only night away from me.
3. I wish I had read books about the baby’s arrival.
4. Finally, I wish we three had gone on a tour or something which would have been memorable 🙂
And good luck to you on your new arrival. Also if you have ideas and inputs on this, please leave it on the comment and I will add those pointers on this post 🙂